Once you realize you have an addiction, it can be difficult to know what to do next. You probably feel scared and overwhelmed, and telling your family only makes those feelings grow. What you probably don’t realize that your family knows something is going on. As an addict, you try to hide your deteriorating state from loved ones, and admitting you have a problem is half the battle. The other half is understanding that you probably didn’t hide it very well.
Disease can only be hidden for a short time before the signs start to show. Anyone that knew you before you became addicted will be able to tell that something is different, and it’s only a matter of time before they deduce that you are addicted. When you decide to talk to them, you need to acknowledge the fact that they’ve seen you changing. Think back to times they may have tried to talk to you about the addiction, and thank them for noticing and reaching out. Be honest about how long you’ve had the addiction, and realize that they probably knew something was wrong ages ago.
Planning what you say is a great technique. When you begin to talk to your family about your addiction, emotions will surface. Emotions are an inevitable part of the healing process, and, if dealt with properly, can be beneficial to all involved. Expressing your emotions and feelings clearly and rationally can help to heal the bonds with your family. Making a plan will provide a guide for when the conversation takes an emotional tone, and it will help you to continue speaking rationally and helpfully despite any pain or anger you may feel.
Express any future plans you have to help you on the recovery process. Let them know that you understand your disease, and that you are prepared to take action and get the treatment you need. Your family needs to know that you are going to get help.
When talking to your family, make sure to tell them how sorry you are for any pain that you may have caused or trust you may have broken. They need to hear this verbal apology, and you need to say it to relieve the guilt and negative emotions associated with past experiences. Remember, your family will always love you. In fact, they most likely will support and help out during the recovery process. You may find that some people are here to help you carry the load, not weigh you down.
Be honest and humble in your talk. Do not be afraid to admit your mistakes and apologize. However, remember that addiction is a disease not a moral failing. Try to have everyone understand that you need to get help during this difficult time, and you are trying to improve. Stay strong, and know that this is just one moment in your life. You can conquer this.
Lead Recovery Center can help you through the process of recovery. The staff at Lead can help you develop the skills necessary to be successful in your new adventure. Call (800) 380-0012 for more information.
